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How to Be Shameless and Why It's Useful

How to Be Shameless and Why It’s Useful

Have you ever found yourself feeling guilty when you really aren’t guilty?

Have you ever felt embarrassed for saying and/or doing something that you believe in?

Do you feel like you would feel ashamed if you did something that someone else wants you to do instead of what you want to do?

Well, here the deal: Unless it’s a law, you don’t have to do that.

In fact, you should be shameless. In this blog post, you will learn what shameless is, why it’s useful for you, and you will learn how to be shameless.

Let’s address reality here.

You never want to feel sorry for yourself EVER! All you will do there is spiral down into a tornado of depression that will sink your self-esteem and induce huge amounts of fear into your body.

And fear is the last thing that you want right?

Because as a wise man once said, “Fear leads to anger, anger leads to hate, hate leads to suffering.” You don’t want the last one, don’t you?

And if you are not sold on that concept, click here to read more into it. I bet that you will be once you finish it. Lifetime warranty with a $100 Amazon gift card sent to your doorstep if I’m wrong.

So with that piece of information to convince you that fear is imminent with unnecessary shame, let’s define what shamelessness is.

What is Shamelessness?

How to Be Shameless and Why It's Useful

Shamelessness is doing what you feel is correct for yourself and being unapologetic about it. I’ll give you an example.

My grandfather, mi abuelo, was once a young man in Cuba who, along with my grandmother, were comfortably in the middle class in 1950s Cuba, at a time where there was great economic prosperity in Cuba.

Then, Castro happened.

Everything was taken from them just like every other Cuban at the time, rich or poor.

All of their land was taken away, all of their money was taken away, my grandmother got fired from her high paying position as a math professor at the university and my grandfather’s business was confiscated, along with their clothes.

My grandfather literally had to run naked in Havana 24/7 just to look for food.

He would treat a simple piece of bread like god!

As you might have figured out by now, they wanted out.

And fast.

So here’s what mi abuelo did.

First, he made the commitment to himself that he would not remain in Cuba and he would get the whole family the hell out of there as soon as possible.

And that he would have no reservations about doing so.

Really.

The first thing he tried doing was to get the entire family on a dinghy, one of those tiny little boats that you can barely fit people in, and he tried to sail to the United States somehow to get out of that oppression.

He eventually went by himself on the boat along with a few other people emigrating who weren’t in the family.

They sailed in a big gigantic thunderstorm with 50 foot waves in the Straits of Florida and they were literally close to drowning to death.

He didn’t make it that time, as you could imagine, but he did get back to Cuba where it’s back to oppression, but at least he can create another chance at it.

For his next attempt to get to the US, he didn’t try to go on a boat again. Instead, he had to fight with the Cuban government to miraculously get a visa to leave the country.

He did get that visa for the whole family, but that wasn’t until government agents visited the household (not really a household) that he and the family were living in and interrogated the whole family for over 6 hours straight non-stop over their purposes of leaving the household.

They almost got into a gunfight; it was that extreme.

Then on June 14, 1962, mi abuelo and the whole family arrived in New York City. They lived a comfortable middle class life the entire time that they were in the US, and I can FULLY ASSURE YOU that he is very shameless about leaving that evil oppression created by that butthead Fidel Castro.

That’s for sure.

So that’s what shamelessness is.

It’s really a force that you create that can make you get from where you are to where you want or need to be, WITH NO RESERVATIONS WHATSOEVER!

And now for the why.

1. You Become Headstrong
How to Be Shameless and Why It's Useful
When you are headstrong, you are self-motivated. You see a vision and you have the determination to make it a reality no matter what the circumstances are.

Of course, you must accommodate yourself according to where you are, but you really become someone who says “I don’t care what the circumstances are.

I will find a way regardless.

I don’t care if I’m dumb, I don’t care if I have a disability nor do I care if I’m flat out broke.

I’ll do whatever the hell that I need to do in order to get whatever the f*** I want.”

But no jail time though 🙂

And you might be asking “Well, how are you still credible?”

Take a look at me.

I’m freaking self-motivated to run Join the Island and make it into the goddamn internet empire that serves the needs of people on the planet.

Am I a people pleaser though?

Hell no I’m not.

I just do it just because I feel like it (and yes, also because I am using it to create massive wealth for myself, but yet again, who the hell wouldn’t want to do that)!

Do I have a disability?

Yeah I do, I have autism and it affects my ability to learn and do things at a fast pace and it affects my social skills, but in my mind I’m like this:

“Ok, I have those constraints from nature.

How do I make the best of them?

How can I still become the most influential man on the planet and how can I still convince people to do what I want?

How can I take over the world even though I have a disability?

I know that I’ll figure it out and I know that I will make it happen because I have the vision and I have the power within myself to make my visions a reality.

And I will NOT APOLOGIZE TO ANYONE WHO TRIES TO F*****’ STOP ME! I HATE YOU, HATERS!”

And last but not least on the credibility end. I’m doing it. Are you? And what were you doing at 20?

And that’s exactly what you have to be.

And now to reason number 2.

2. You Become 110% More Confident in Yourself, Your Abilities, and What You Believe In
How to Be Shameless and Why It's Useful

Not 100%, but 110%!

When you are 110% more confident, unless it’s a source where you are seeking specialized knowledge from in order to perform something related to your goal, you become bulletproof from being told “No you can’t do this” or “No, you can’t do that” or “You are not good enough you butthead!”

You don’t need to be sorry to anyone.

You know within yourself that you have the ability to be your goal and to not have any fear holding you back.

And know this, if you fear something, it’s because you don’t know something.

If that happens, get the knowledge that you need before making a decision on whether or not to do that thing or not.

When you are 110% confident, you write your own laws.

You define what you are guilty of and not guilty of.

You become the master of your own world and you can shape the world to the way that you see fit; just don’t break the government’s law though and you should be just fine 🙂

I’ll give you an example again: Me. Oh how I love myself!

But only to set an example for you captain!

I know that I’m 110% confident since I firmly know that I have the brain and the willpower to learn the knowledge that I need to learn and to implement it to make my visions a reality.

And because I know that I can make my visions a reality, I can’t be pushed around by ANYONE ON THE PLANET and be told “You can’t do it Evan! You’re too young! You’re too rebellious! You’re a fool! etc.” and be brought down to something that society expects me to settle for.

Evan goes for whatever Evan wants to go for, and I’m doing the necessary work to do what I want to do, which is to become the most influential, the most powerful, the wealthiest, and the most helpful person EVER in the history of the world!

In other words, I don’t want it, I f*****’ want it!

Do I sound like a kid?

Oh heck yes I do!

In fact, I’d rather be a kid with an imagination and a correctly educated mind over an adult with no imagination and an incorrectly educated mind.

And I don’t feel sorry one bit for believing that.

And now to the next reason.

3. You Can Eliminate Negativity
How to Be Shameless and Why It's Useful

Really dude?

You got beat by a girl? What the hell?!

When you are justifiably shameless, you adopt a CAN-DO attitude that really makes you a godly king or a godly queen.

You push through the obstacles when others want to just say “Nothing’s happening. You just wanna chill?”

And what happens after that? Those guys that just wanted to “chill” are all of a sudden on the hot seat, or worse, fired.

You bet that’s negative!

And when you possess the CAN-DO attitude, you say “Let’s keep on finding a way to win. Maybe this strategy or this method doesn’t work, but our goal hasn’t changed.

We can still achieve it! Let’s try something else that works!”

There’s that enthusiasm!

There’s the guy that injects hope in people and makes sure that no one loses faith in what we are trying to accomplish here!

There’s the hero in the room.

Do you want that to be you?

The superhero (your name) saving the day for his or her company, coworkers, dream, vision, what you want, etc. There’s the guy or gal THAT MADE IT HAPPEN!

And THAT’S what having the CAN-DO attitude brings to your life: results that deliver.

Read that last sentence again, please.

And if you don’t do it for yourself or for anyone else, do it for me.

How to Do This
How to Be Shameless and Why It's Useful

And now to address the first part of the title, here’s how you become justifiably shameless.

A) Commit to what you want and Know It

In order to do anything really significant, you must be COMMITTED.

Intellectually you know that, but do you really know it?

Ask yourself that.

And then do something to start accomplishing that commitment.

Once again, you’ve heard of that before, but yet again, do you REALLY know it?

If my blog post didn’t convince you, I have a great recommendation if you haven’t looked into it.

There a book called Think and Grow Rich that lays out the principles for becoming successful in any endeavor and it goes into great detail how successful people actually use sexual energy to achieve what they want.

If you talk to any successful person, they say that as a result of reading this book, they were able to achieve success in some capacity and it completely eliminated their doubts forever.

In fact, Napoleon Hill, the author of the book, wrote that things like fear of criticism and fear of poverty were “ghosts” of fear and as a result, many successful people in different professions embraced that and took it to heart as something that can be overcome.

And indeed they did.

In fact, many of the wealthiest people of all time attribute their success to this book. Click here to read more about that.

And like I just said, it’s not just entrepreneurs that benefit from this book.

Professionals like engineers and lawyers have benefitted from this book too!

Hill actually tells the story about how one engineer used this book to go back to school right after the depression to become a lawyer and built a LUCRATIVE law practice as a result of it!

All with a family to feed!

Isn’t that remarkable?!

If you are convinced that this book can change the outlook of what you are doing right now, do yourself a favor and grab a copy right here, which is available on Amazon.

Note: I am an affiliate for Amazon and I will receive a commission of the purchase if you do purchase through my affiliate link, but that will not affect the price that you will pay for the book. That will remain the same.

I understand if it is more money than you had budgeted.

Purchase it anyway though, it is not like that it’s a disease and that you’ll die from it.

You will benefit from it greatly.

Like I said before, a lifetime warranty and a $100 Amazon gift card sent to your doorstep if the book doesn’t work.

And if you don’t do it for you and you don’t do it for your spouse or anyone else, then I suggest that you do it for me.

It’s better to ask for forgiveness than it is to ask for permission. So click on the link now so that you can get yourself in the right direction ASAP!

B) Embrace the word F***

That’s right, embrace that word right there. That is a word that makes you an authoritative man or woman that immunes you from any negativity, any criticism, any feeling of unnecessary guilt, and of self-esteem.

Use it in your mind when you are dealing with negative people, but don’t necessarily say it out loud.

Make it like you are a king and that you know that you are a king (once again, justifiably so, otherwise they do have the right to say what they have to say).

That clears them off your path and gives you a straight road to your destination instead of a curvy one with lots of twists and turns; save that for the roller coasters and let the doubters take that road with their vehicles 🙂

And watch them crash!

C) Go do it

The exact steps for this one strictly depend on your own personal road, but the premise is still the same.

You’ve gotta go do it.

Just like the old Nike says.

If doing takes research (highly recommended before actually doing anything), that’s it.

If doing means jumping off an airplane, that’s it.

If it means dealing with the worst professor in the world, that’s it.

Just don’t procrastinate though.

That’ll kill you.

And you’ve heard that one before, but YET AGAIN, do you actually KNOW IT?

And most importantly, don’t quit and never tell yourself no.

That’s the very worst thing that you can do.

If you want to learn about how not to quit, click here for an article that I wrote about that.

Leave a comment below and tell me what you got out of this post, how implementing this blog post has impacted you in some way, and rate it from 1-10 in terms of how it was impactful to you and how it resulted in something better for any aspect of your life.

Your comments and feedback are extremely appreciated.

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Until next time,

This is Evan signing off.

Evan Cruz
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Evan Cruz is the founder of Join the Island, the website committed to helping young adults become massively productive and reach their full potential.

He has been featured on Vox, OnlineU, and UpJourney. He has also a cited human relations expert and college expert.

He graduated Magna Cum Laude with a Bachelor of Science Degree in Civil Engineering.

Read more about Evan and Join the Island here.

17 thoughts on “How to Be Shameless and Why It’s Useful”

  1. I agree, shame is something you should never ever feel. You should only do things you feel right about in the first place. If it’s something you feel shame for, why did you do it?

  2. That was a blast of a pep-talk, sir.

    I don’t really have any doubts that many successful people have been utterly shameless in their personal pursuits. I would add that the law may not encompass all bad behaviour, though. But at that point it comes down to your own conscience.

  3. Hi Evan, I loved this post as it does have a shock factor, but in a good way. You seem to be embracing the art of the law of attraction. You know that you are a magnet attracting everything that you desire if you believe it and put action towards obtaining it. I do this myself and it works. In fact, reading this was just what I needed to be reminded of today, therefore I would give it a 10/10

    1. Thanks Stefanie and I hope that you do implement it. And please do come back and tell me the results that you got from the information in this post. That would be greatly appreciated.

    1. That is 110% accurate Nigel. Thank you for reading and please do share this with those that might benefit from this article and report back on the results that they got out of reading this article.

  4. YEP! Have you ever ready any Brene Brown? She’s a psychologist that writes about what she calls “shame resilience” and I think your ideas tie in perfectly with hers. I liked that your article focused on all the positive benefits. I know in my own life, I have struggled to overcome vulnerabilities and shame and it has affected me in pretty nasty ways. But in recent years, I can confirm that your advice is 100% solid. Back yourself up, because at the end of the day that’s all you’ve got! Great post!

    1. Glad you enjoyed it! No, I haven’t heard of her until I read your comment. Briefly going through her work though, I will agree with you that her ideas do line up with mine in that shame is a detriment to our progress as people as a result of this “fearful” culture that she calls it that we are living in. And putting blame o ourselves for something that we did not do wrong and is justified definitely hurts us as well and Dr. Brown seems to confirm that very well. It’s a pleasure hearing from you and definitely read more of my posts like this one here that can really open up your mind more to greater things that you can’t even imagine. You are welcome!

  5. You have an unique and entertaining writing style and I enjoyed reading this article. I can relate to you in so many ways living with mental diagnosis and having a family member with Autism and a dad that works with kids with disabilities. I have come to point in my life where I don’t care about things as much or regret decisions that I have made that it makes life easier. You are right it is all about outlook and having a positive attitude. You have a positive attitude and great outlook on life. You have a new subscriber in me and I look forward to reading more of your articles and seeing the great things you do with this website.

    1. Thank you Justin for subscribing and I’m glad that you enjoyed the article. I must give you a fair warning about receiving the articles though. They might not show up in your inbox automatically, so I will ask that you come to the website every day and go to the blog section (this should take no more than 5 minutes) and receive the blog posts there. Thank you and feel free to read another article here; you’ll definitely get a lot out of it!

  6. Evan – these are some great tips to go out and be shameless. No fear, right? I think that’s what mainly holds us back…fear and fear of what others may think. So these are great. I really enjoyed your story about tu abuelo – what a blessing that he was indeed shameless and determined and migrated to the US. What a blessing! I also appreciate your no shameless writing style too. Wishing you much success here and keep on motivating others with your site. 🙂

    1. Absolutely LT and I genuinely appreciate your comment. You truly understood where I was going with this. If you want another motivating post that’ll get you going today, check it out here. You won’t regret it. Guaranteed.

  7. Pingback: The Value of Consistency to Achieve Your Ultimate Greatness Starting Today | Join the Island

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